Issues, Behavior, Beliefs, Which Irritate Me

Issues, Behavior, and Cultural Myths, Which Irritate Me

I’m guessing there are many aspects of life, and they are different for everyone, which irritates all of us, some more than others. I’m definitely in the “more than others” category. Here’s a partial list of issues, beliefs, or behavior, which irritates me. I’m guessing you will identify with some of them, and I’m confident some of you will not like several of my thoughts in this article. If you’re interested in my partial list, please continue reading. After you finish reading this article, if you want to send me to a deserted island, let me know. But I’m sorry, I do not believe in many of our absurd, cultural myths.

LOG OUT BUTTON: Many web developers think it’s cool to hide the log out button. Why? Logging out, especially on a bank site, is critical for your financial safety. Why do these idiots hide the log out button? It should be prominently displayed, so that everyone will see it.

PARENTHESIS AROUND THE AREA CODE:

Maybe it made sense back in 1983, but in the year 2023, there is absolutely no need to place parentheses around the area code, as is often required on website forms. Why do people continue to insist on doing this? I don’t get it.

GAS STATION PRICES: You will never see the price of gas listed simply as $3.98 per gallon. No, it will be $3.98 9/10. Why do we need that useless tenths category?

ALCOHOL: Why do most Americans associate having a good time with alcohol? Why can’t you go out and enjoy yourself without indulging in something I find unhealthy and unnecessary? Yes, I realize, that’s my issue, not your issue.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? Wherever I go, I’m a person who analyzes many aspects of an organization. I’m sorry, but I can’t help myself, that’s what I do instinctively. When I transition to a new company, a new job, or a new organization, I always see them doing things which make no sense to anyone, not even themselves. When I ask the question, this doesn’t make any sense, why are you continuing to do this, you know what the answer is. We’ve always done it this way. I hate that response.
I worked in the federal government for 25 years, and on several occasions, I wrote letters to upper management, showing them how we could accomplish our tasks more efficiently. If that wasn’t enough, I would also point out that it would actually save money. Even though many of the senior managers liked or agreed with my suggestions, guess what the usual response was.

TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST WITH YOU: Very often, I’m in an extended conversation with someone who suddenly prefaces their next statement by saying, “To Be Perfectly Honest With You”. When I hear that expression, my initial thought is, have you been lying to me all this time?

KNOCK on WOOD: Yes, in the 21st Century, people still preface their wishful comments by knocking on a table or something similar. Really? Why?

ADULTS DO THIS ALL THE TIME: When people are giving you a verbal list of several items, you will see them counting with their fingers. You’re no longer 7 years old, please stop doing that!

THE FOX PROPAGANDA NETWORK:  Millions of American incredibly believe the non-stop lies and propaganda coming from Fox is news. The Alternate Reality which Fox creates for their addicted viewers, is extremely dangerous for our democracy and our country.

THE CONCEPT of GOD, HEAVEN, HELL, and a DEVIL with a tail: When we were growing up, most of us believed in Santa Claus, Batman, and Superman. When we reached a certain age, we eventually figured out that Santa Claus, Batman, and Superman do not exist, they are CULTURAL MYTHS! For the rest of our lives, we may have a little chuckle when any of them are brought up in conversation, possibly wondering why or how you possibly believed in them as a little kid.

But for many reasons, which I will not get into in this article, millions of adult Americans, still believe the absurd cultural myths related to the concept of a God and associated issues. When I ask people where is your god, they look up in the sky. When I ask them where is hell and where does the devil live, they look down and say underground. I then ask, does the devil live under Bermuda, Hawaii, the North Pole, China, or somewhere else. I’m always met with a blank stare.

I then ask the big one, if your God is all-powerful, why doesn’t your god eliminate the devil? Once again, I rarely get an answer.

If they’re still talking to me, I usually ask them where is heaven? Once again, they look up in the sky and point in that direction. That’s very impressive reasoning!

I then ask them questions such as, how are people transported to heaven? Do they have bathrooms, supermarkets, food, McDonalds, Burger King, and roads in heaven? Do people live in single family homes, townhomes, or apartment buildings. Do women have wings? Is there a heaven for fish, lions, tigers, elephants, insects, horses, etc.? I never get an answer. By that time, they are no longer talking to me. How can people possibly believe this mumbo jumbo? In terms of heaven, I almost get it. I realize people never want to face the reality that after you die, it’s over. But please, the concept is absurd! After you die, it is in fact all over.  

JEWISH PEOPLE STILL BELIEVE in GOD: This one is mind boggling to me. I ask them where was your all-powerful God while the Nazis were killing over 6 MILLION JEWS over a period of several years. I never once heard an acceptable answer.

BLACK PEOPLE STILL BELIEVE in GOD: What was your all-powerful God doing while white Christians, many of them holding a bible in their hands, enslaved huge numbers of black people for a very long period of time.

CATHOLICS STILL BELIEVE in GOD: How many hundreds of Priests sexually abused or raped thousands of little boys or girls over the years? And you still believe in that religion?

FAMILY MEMBERS of CRIME VICTIMS: Family members of people who were kidnapped, raped, assaulted, or murdered, still pray to their God. Why? I ask them, where was your all-powerful God while your son, daughter, mother, or father was being kidnapped, raped, robbed, or murdered. Once again, I never heard an acceptable answer.

ATHLETES THANK GOD for their ACHIVEMENTS: I almost want to throw up when I see football players point up to the sky and say thank you after they score a touchdown. It’s the same with baseball players who hit a home run. Do you really believe there’s a god watching your game and rooting for you against your opponent? And that God has the power to intervene in the game on your behalf?

PRAYING: Do you believe there’s a god who understands numerous languages and simultaneously monitors almost 8 billion people?

I also ask them other questions such as, why do you have to get on your knees before you can pray? Why do you have to bow your head while talking to God? Why do you have to clasp your hands together? I have other questions I ask, but you get the idea. I never once received what I consider an intelligent reply. But very often, they walk away from me before I can ask those other questions. It’s literally mind boggling to me that people actually believe there’s a god listening to their prayers, even though several million other people might be praying at the same exact time. Where is that God? How does that God hear you? How does God hear millions of people praying simultaneously?

We currently live in the scientifically advanced 21st century, where we’ve been exploring outer space for over 60 years. Despite our numerous scientific advances, incredibly, people still believe these absurd, totally illogical, cultural myths. Yes, that’s the same mumbo jumbo which was pounded into them since they were three years old.

Hopefully, after reading this article, some of you will still talk to me.

Murder and Rapes of Indigenous Women and Women in General

Murder and Rape of Indigenous Women and Women in General

I recently read an article on violence against women, but especially indigenous women. Although we are 22 years into the 21st Century,  American women continue to be raped and/or murdered at a very high rate. However, as much as they are suffering, their plight pales when compared with attacks against native American women. Thankfully, a federal bill was updated, improved, and reauthorized back in 2013. More on that later in this article.

How much more likely are Native women to be murdered?  Indigenous Women are murdered at a rate 10 times higher than all other ethnicities!

  • Murder is the 3rd leading cause of death for Indigenous Women (Centers for Disease Control).
  • More than 4 out of 5 Indigenous Women have experienced violence (84.3%) (National Institute of Justice Report).
  • More than four in five American Indian and Alaska Native adults (83 percent) have experienced some form of violence in their lifetime.
  • Slightly more than 1 in 3 Native American Women [34 percent] are raped in their lifetimes.

Who is committing these crimes?

Although the exact number of victimizations per person is unknown, it is clear that most American Indian and Alaska Native victims have experienced at least one act of violence committed by a perpetrator who is not an Indian (97 percent of women and 90 percent of men). Fewer victims (35 percent of women and 33 percent of men) have experienced one or more acts of violence by an American Indian or Alaska Native perpetrator.

These statistics illustrate the need for the sovereign right of federally recognized tribes to criminally prosecute non-Indian perpetrators. Until this bill was updated 9 years ago, federally recognized tribes did not have this authority, even for crimes committed on tribal lands. This gap in jurisdictional authority provided immunity to non-Indian perpetrators and compromised the safety of tribal communities.

The Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2013 partially corrected this problem by providing special domestic violence criminal jurisdiction to federally recognized tribes. Let’s not lose sight of the fact that women in general, are victims of numerous assaults and murders. In 2013, the following federal bill was updated and reauthorized.

REAUTHORIZING THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN ACT: KEY PROVISIONS

While tremendous progress has been made since the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was first enacted, domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking are still significant problems facing women, families, and communities.

  • Domestic violence causes 3 deaths a day to women
  • 1 out of 4 women have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner.
  • 1 out of 5 women were raped in their lifetimes.

The VAWA bill, signed into law by President Obama, made targeted expansions to address the needs of especially vulnerable populations. Here are the Key Provisions.

  • Researchers estimate that for every woman killed in a domestic violence homicide, nine more are nearly killed.
  • The bill integrates screening for homicide risks throughout existing VAWA programs and requires states to develop goals and activities to reduce domestic violence homicides.
  • Native American women suffer from one of the highest rates of domestic violence. The bill closes gaps in jurisdiction and recognizes the authority of tribes to prosecute domestic violence crimes against Indian and non-Indian perpetrators
  • The bill addresses high rates of dating violence and sexual assault on college campuses by requiring colleges and universities to provide information to students about domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking and inform students and staff about the number of these crimes that occur on and near campus.
  • Colleges will be required to create and disseminate policies describing the protections, resources, and services available to victims to help them safely continue their education.
  • Sexual assault is one of the most underreported violent crimes in the country, and victims often suffer long term physical and emotional trauma.
  • The bill creates state grant funding for law enforcement, prosecutors, and victim services to work together to respond to these crimes and helps law enforcement agencies tackle their backlog of rape kits.
  • The bill addresses the high rates of dating violence and sexual assault experienced by teens and young adults. The bill will help schools, youth organizations, and domestic violence agencies work more effectively with youth and engage young people in stopping violence before it starts.

Although we’ve seen tremendous progress over the years reference opportunities for women, and women’s rights, it’s very said to learn that some things never change. I wish I could come up with a solution, but I don’t have one.

The Impact of Alcohol On Our Lives

The Impact of Alcohol in Our Lives

Everyone knows having fun and/or celebrating in our culture is almost always associated with alcohol. Hey, someone just graduated or got a new job, let’s open a bottle of wine and celebrate. When single men or women want to meet someone, where do they go? It’s almost always suggested that can happen at a bar. I never perceived meeting the woman of my dreams at a bar, but that’s just me.

The relationship between alcohol and fun is a concept almost everyone accepts as perfectly normal. But I never understood why people think like that. I’m one of those rare Americans who never consumed a single drink, and I don’t believe having fun or celebrating means alcohol is an integral part of the process. I never had a glass of wine, I did taste beer once on very hot day, and I never tried whiskey.

There’s a prevailing myth that a small amount of alcohol, such as one glass of wine a day, is good for you. More on this later in the article. But let me start with a boyhood experience which helped formulate my lifelong attitude towards drinking.

When my brother and I were growing up in Brooklyn, we literally lived in the schoolyard, where we played basketball and football every day.  When I was about 13 years old, I remember going to the schoolyard on a Sunday morning to play basketball. There was a guy named Billy, who was about 19 years old, and he wasn’t playing with us as he normally did. Billy was sitting on a park bench looking miserable. I asked the older guys what was wrong with him. They told me Billy went out drinking Saturday night and had a hangover, that’s why he doesn’t feel like playing basketball.

I then asked the older guys, if drinking gives you a hangover and makes you feel miserable, why do people do that. Of course, I never received a good answer.  Many decades have passed since that boyhood experience, but I still vividly remember the visual of Billy looking like a zombie. After all these years, I still don’t understand why people do that to themselves.

Thankfully, I never had any desire to smoke or drink. When I was a young guy in his early twenties, I would go to dance clubs or parties and have tons of fun dancing and laughing. I always wondered why so many people felt the need for alcohol in order to relax and have fun. When I was at those dance clubs or parties, I often saw one or more people, who were drunk, slobbering over themselves, acting like an imbecile. As an impressionable young man, I would ask myself why someone would do that to themselves. Of course, I never came up with a good answer. But I knew that I would never become one of those fools.

It’s essentially the same mind-boggling question I ask about cigarettes. If smoking causes cancer and an array of serious health issues, why do people smoke?

I regularly watch real life murder mysteries [Dateline, 20/20, Investigation Discovery, 48 Hours] and I’ve seen so many stories about people who are murdered, and alcohol played a major role. Family members of the murdered victim often describe alcohol as a major factor. Sometimes if she was lucky enough to be a survivor of an attack, the wife or girlfriend would tell us the relationship with their husband or boyfriend was normal, unless he was drinking. Of course, the boyfriend or husband was almost always drinking. That’s when the verbal and physical assaults started, and often led to murder.

Putting aside murders, how many marriages were destroyed because of alcohol?

Many murders are committed by a perpetrator who is under the influence.

We know, or you should know, that DWI motor vehicle accidents cause over 10,000 deaths annually in America. In addition to fatalities, how many serious injuries and/or property damage accidents are caused by drunk drivers every year? I’m sure the number is huge.

We become very righteous when it comes to illegals drugs, but we accept the negative impact of alcohol as a routine part of our lives. Yes, I realize I’m talking about people who take it to an extreme, but it’s still something worth thinking or talking about.

Just as with the health issues caused by smoking, I read many articles which discussed the impact of alcohol on your body. I remember reading several research articles which talked about liver and brain damage as a result of routine drinking. Man, even if I had a desire to drink, those articles scared me so much, I would never consider it.

My father, who was not a heavy drinker, enjoyed having a few beers after he came home from work every night. He died at a relatively young age, primarily from cirrhosis of the liver. Mom, who was not a drinker, was 22 years older than dad when she died. Was there a correlation? If there is, would you want to live an additional 22 years?

There’s been a medical myth being spread for over 2 decades that a small amount of alcohol was actually good for you. One of the myths was moderate drinking helped protect you against heart attacks. I never believed it and now we know that isn’t true! For more than two decades, I’ve been reading health and fitness research articles from a guy named Dr. Mirkin. His summary of the latest scientific research on the relationship between smoking and liver damage, destroyed that myth. If you want more info, visit his website at https://www.drmirkin.com/ where you will find a wealth of articles on medical research reference health and fitness.

Finally, nothing I said in this article was directed at anyone who enjoys an occasional drink. Come on, virtually everyone I know has a glass of wine or a beer when they go out. I’m not criticizing somebody who derives pleasure from an occasional drink. If you enjoy a glass of wine or an occasional beer, go for it. I just want people to think about alcohol and how it negatively impacts our lives in so many ways.

JFK Assassination – Another Delay in Releasing Government Records

On October 22, 2021, President Biden, just as Trump did during his administration, delayed the planned 2017 release of the remaining information on the Kennedy Assassination, still hidden in the National Archives. The new deadline for releasing the remaining records is now December, 2022. Biden blamed the latest delay on problems at the agency with Covid-19. Maybe that is a legitimate concern, but it once again raises the question of why and/or what is the government hiding from the American public.

President Biden said, “Some of the information regarding Kennedy’s death on Nov. 22, 1963, remained off limits to “protect against an identifiable harm to the military defense, intelligence operations, law enforcement, or the conduct of foreign relations that is of such gravity that it outweighs the public interest in disclosure.” Hmmmm…….

JFK was killed on November 22, 1963. That was almost 60 years ago, and our government is still hiding assassination records. Let’s review a timeline of the investigation and the release of government records.

  • The Warren Commission Report, otherwise known as a “Rush to Judgment”, a report very few believed was credible, was released on September 27, 1964.
  • Here’s what really sparked interest in the assassination. The government decided to hide the Warren Commission filles until 2039. Are you serious? Everyone immediately asked why.
  • In 1976 The House Select Committee on Assassinations was commissioned to investigate the assassinations of President Kennedy and Martin Luther King. Their investigation stated there was probably a conspiracy to kill JFK
  • I’m not positive, but after Oliver Stone released his award-winning JFK film in 1991, a public outcry actually worked. The Assassination Disclosures Act, otherwise known as the JFK act of 1992, directed the release of those Warren Commission files to the American people.
  • October,1992: The House passed the JFK Act, which required the creation of an Assassination Records Review Board to review which records should be released. A deadline for the release of the records was given, 2017.
  • From 1994-1998: During these four years, millions of pages were released to the public, but then the ARRB was disbanded. Although a large cache of information was in fact released to the American public, much of it was redacted. Those redactions were allegedly set to expire in 2017, but I don’t believe that happened.
  • The JFK act passed 29 years ago, but the process hasn’t been completed. Almost 16,000 documents still haven’t been released to the American public. And much of the redactions, which were supposed to be removed, still exist. Any reasonable person should be asking why.
  • The CIA allegedly retains approximately 7 key records on the assassination.
  • Just as his predecessor, Donald Trump did during his administration, President Biden delayed the release of remaining records until December, 2022.

The above hopefully outlines what happened to the JFK investigation over the past 58 years and where it stands today. I must admit, like many people my age, I’ve always been fascinated by this highly flawed investigation. Now I’m going to explain why after all these years, I’m still interested in the case. Here we go.

Almost every reliable investigation proved that Lee Harvey Oswald was the lone assassin. There is no reliable evidence contradicting this conclusion, or even indicating, there was a second shooter on the grassy knoll.

But here are several key questions which have never been answered. This is why many people are clamoring for the release of the assassination records, which have been kept secret by our government for almost 60 years.

  • What was Oswald’s motive?
  • Did Oswald act on his own or was he hired to assassinate JFK?
  • What was Jack Ruby’s role?
  • Was Ruby a concerned citizen who angrily reacted to the assassination by killing Oswald?
  • Or, as many people believe, was Ruby acting on the behalf of organized crime members? That would be Florida Godfather Santos Trafficante Jr, who had a connection with Cuba, and New Orleans Godfather, Carlos Marcello. Many believe those two hired Oswald, and then ordered Ruby to silence him after the assassination.

I’m confident we will never know what really happened. But I would feel much better if the U.S. government would stop hiding almost 60-year-old files and release them to the American public.